Cultivate Peace in Your Family!

Certainly everyone has experienced conflict in his or her families. Yet very few people have received training on how to work collaboratively to resolve their conflicts. Left to their own devices, most people employ the problem solving techniques that were used in their family of origin.

When family arguments lead to heated exchanges, criticism, verbal abuse, and nagging, it can divide parents, children, husbands and wives. These divisions can last a lifetime.

While most of us have experienced firsthand the pain, loss and damage that can come from conflict, we have also watched as conflicts yield transformation, forgiveness and creative solutions. There are two faces in every conflict. Each conflict holds the potential for either destruction or creation.

Jetta Mediation Services (JMS) understands that conflict is a normal, essential part of all relationships and in order to maintain our relationships it is imperative to understand how to handle them properly.

JMS offers conflict resolution services to a wide variety of family situations. Whether a family is planting roots and creating a prenuptial agreement, or already married and unsure of how to handle their conflicts at home, needing individual conflict coaching, or deciding to terminate the marriage and divorce, JMS can help families move forward productively.

JMS offers conflict coaching for individuals who find themselves stuck in conflict. JMS recognizes that people enduring difficult situations may have a hard time comprehending the full range of choices available to them. In collaboration with a conflict coach, one can change their perspective and create strategies to give them clearer, stronger and more open views.

We must never despair; our situation has been compromising before, and it has changed for the better; so I trust it will again. If difficulties arise, we must put forth new exertion and proportion our efforts to the exigencies of our time.
—George Washington

Ask yourself

• Am I fully satisfied with my relationships at home?
• Can I share myself openly with my partner?
• Have I given my children good skills to problem solve?
• Do my children work out their differences productively?
• How much of our family time is consumed by recurring problems?
• Do I dream of having things go differently in my family relationships?
• Do I like the quality of how we all communicate?
• Is there something I wish I could say to a family member, but am scared to say it?

A family situation can have many relationship dynamics. Each relationship has its own uniqueness and peculiarities. It is within our families and within these relationships that we create and express our true selves. How we relate to our children and them to each other, travels with them into adulthood. Individuals in a family are created by the things they do, the way that they do them, the people they do them with, the environment in which they do them and the attitude they bring with them.

If we never address the questions about the quality in how we interact with our family, we run the risk of falling in to apathetic, intolerant ways of dealing with the people we love the most. It can be easy to create negative patterns of communication that leave us feeling misunderstood and isolated under our own roof. Unfortunately, most people don’t reach out for support in handling their disagreements, until the pain is unbearable that they want to terminate the relationship.

JMS can help husbands and wives, brothers and sisters, parents and children improve their communication and improve the quality in which they problem solve. At JMS, families can find a resolution to current problems and develop tools that will help them face future problems more skillfully. JMS understands that if a family can handle their conflicts more effectively, the family unit becomes more productive, motivated and happy.